Asexual Awareness Week: Two YA Novels with Complex, Geeky, Lovable Demi Protagonists

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It’s Asexual Awareness Week, which means that though I’d do it any time of the year, it’s the optimal time of the year to recommend and gather recommendations of media with asexual protagonists. Today I want to talk about two brilliant geeky YA novels with main characters that are not only relatable, complicated, and funny, but sit on a perhaps lesser-known place on the asexual spectrum: these are two characters who are confirmed as demisexual.

Demisexuality is when you only begin to feel sexually attracted to people once you form a strong emotional bond with them. The most common misconceptions about it tend to be that the demi in question is just “picky” and chooses to get to know people first, or that they’re no longer, or never really were, asexual at all once they find someone they like enough to be attracted to. As with the many grey areas along the ace spectrum, it can be a tricky thing to both explain to people and define for yourself, especially given how society so easily conflates romantic, aesthetic, and sexual attraction all together as one big amorphous thing when they’re really separate and very different feelings—and, as always, different for every individual person!

I know that I’m somewhere under the ace umbrella, but finding an exact word to define my unique, personal scenario has kind of felt like I’m a sleep-deprived detective staring at a conspiracy board trying to link evidence together with bits of string. While I’m still bumbling along trying to figure myself out, it was immensely rewarding and heartwarming to read these two books where characters (who are younger than me, mind you) get to not only find happiness in their ace identities and have fulfilling relationships, but get to be the stars of moving and engaging stories.

Head to Lady Geek Girl and Friends for the full post!

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3 responses to “Asexual Awareness Week: Two YA Novels with Complex, Geeky, Lovable Demi Protagonists

  1. Thank you for the recs! I read Every Heart a Doorway some time back (I think on your recommendation?) and really enjoyed it, so I’ll be trying these out when I can as well. I ‘came out’ to myself as ace in my early 20s but like you said, pinpointing exactly what that means and how to describe it succinctly is difficult. I think the closest I’ve managed to come is gray-A.

  2. Kimchi

    I just ordered both of these last week, I’ve been wanting to read them since you wrote about them a while ago! So excited!

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